Hello Everyone, Brand new forum member here, in Houston, Texas area. We are looking into assisted living for 86-year-old relative, widow of Korean War era vet. I'm pretty sure she will qualify for A&A because he was serving in 1951...so if I read the website correctly I think we have that basic hurdle covered. One of the facilities we visited (and can't afford) said there are lawyers who will "do the application" for a flat fee -- $750 was cited. Then I could swear I read somewhere online that you aren't supposed to have to PAY anyone to do the application... I assume there is some nuance there that I have missed. I have also been told by A Place for Mom (have mixed feelings about those folks) that one shouldn't even apply for A&A until the person is IN the facility. We are counting heavily on her getting the $1100 A&A maximum... so I don't know what I don't know. If her SS is about $1300 and the home will be $2000....will she "only" get $700 as an A&A benefit then? Another facility we are considering would be $2500 a month, so there is a $1200 shortfall in that scenario. Does the VA look at the facility costs primarily? There are three relatives involved --me, the son and daughter-in-law (I'm counting them as one unit haha) and daughter. All of us work 50+ hours a week and are daunted by this whole application process. That's why I am actually willing to pay someone else to deal with it... but how much footwork does the family have to do anyway? Can you give a lawyer "name, rank and serial number" and have them take it from there? For those who did it all themselves, can you put an estimate of hours (or days or weeks??) that it took to complete? I know this is rambling... appreciate any all comments and insights! Thanks so much!